I’ve recently been questioning my seemingly difficult to control emotions, and I thought, “how nice would if i can control my feelings and be happy all the time?” Even if it’s not practically possible to be happy all the time, I think it is definitely worth trying.
So I did some research.
According to the Shape Blog, there are 10 habits that happy people share.
1. Being Thankful
I think this is perhaps the most important one. It is important to strive for something you want, but it is equally, if not more, important to recognize the things you already have in your life and be grateful for them. Think of your family, friends, and partners, who care for you dearly and want the best for you. Think of your house and clothes that keep you warm, food that gives you nutrition and energy. Think of your well-intact limbs. Sometimes we take advantage of our well-being and neglect their extreme importance in our lives. Think about how your life would change if you were missing a leg, an arm, or even a toe!
2. Share Your Stories
Many times, happiness is felt through relationships and interactions. Sharing your stories, whether it be happy ones or sad ones, can be healing and therapeutic. I’ve noticed that through my experience with blogging. Writing helps me collect my thoughts and gives me a chance to think back and evaluate what I have done and seen. Even a simple post can motivate me and keep me on track.
I’ve learned through the years that holding grudges against people has the most harmful and negative effect on myself, not the person I am holding the grudge on. We may think that we are giving back the pain that we have felt, but we suffer more by resenting and hating on the person. Often times, that person we have a grudge on is not even aware (or does not care) of the fact that we were hurt by them. So why not just let go and forgive? After all, none of us are perfect and we all make mistakes.
4. Listening to Others
As much as you want to share your stories to other people, you should probably listen to other people’s stories as well. If you are not comfortable with sharing your personal stories to other people, it may be helpful to just listen to other people’s stories first. Or, if you are usually a talker, listening to others may give you a different perspective. Sometimes, no words are necessary. Sometimes, we all need a listening ear.
5. Turning Envy and Jealousy into Energy
Grass is always greener on the other side. We constantly compare ourselves to others and want the things that others have. It’s a part of human nature. But I don’t think it’s necessarily a bad thing. It can give us hope and motivation to strive for what we want. Remember that your biggest competitor is yourself and not the girl who got the highest grade in the class.
Studies show that smiling can actually fool your brain into thinking that you are happy. Even if it’s a forced smile, with practice, that smile will someday turn into a genuine one. Also, a smile is contagious! (http://scienceblog.com/176/a-smile-really-is-contagious/) You can multiply the amount of happiness you create by greeting others on the streets with a smile. Everyone is most beautiful when smiling.
7. Exercise and Keep a Healthy Diet
I think this is another very critical aspect of being happy and keeping your emotions under control. I can definitely sense a difference in my body when I skip on my morning run or skip on my daily supplements. Exercise keeps you both physically and mentally healthy, and a healthy diet gives you the energy to keep you going throughout the day. Supplements can be necessary to provide your body with the necessary nutrients, especially with the American diet that has been increasing in levels of fat and sugar and decreasing in the level of key nutrients. There are some vital nutrients that are commonly neglected but are necessary to maximize the bodily functions and optimize health, such as Vitamin D, Iodine, Magnesium, and etc.. But that’s for another post.
8. Practice Positive Forward Thinking
Happy thoughts often helps in making people happy. Read a funny meme. Sing along to the radio. Dance in your room. Laugh out loud. It may just make you happy. Also, setting goals can give you hope for the future and motivate you to live more productively and effectively.
9. Don’t Blame Others
Blaming others can sometimes act as your shortcut or a hiding place. But you have to understand that blaming others never solves the problem. It simply gives you an excuse to keep it off of your shoulders. You can blame for the politics, economy, failed relationships, weight gain, unhappiness, or what ever it may be. But that won’t make anything better. You have to take charge and be responsible for your life and your decisions.
10. Let Go, and Move On
Everyone makes mistakes. No one’s life is perfect. You learn much more from your failures and mistakes than from your success. Sometimes, you gotta just let it go and move on. One dip in your life is not worth your whole life.
These are good habits for all of us to build for happier days, happier year, and happier life. We often stress ourselves for the things we want in life, the tests we have to ace, and the people we have to please. But we often forget the most important driving factor in our life: happiness. What’s in a life filled with luxurious furnitures, gigantic mansions, and walk-in closets filled with expensive wardrobe, if there is no happiness?
Writing this post really helped me to see what the most important aspect in life is. I frequently push myself and stress myself out and often forget to see the countless things in my life that I should be thankful for.
For more information, visit http://www.shape.com/lifestyle/mind-and-body/10-habits-happy-people